Today I am posting this as it is over a year since I posted on this subject with some useful information. I had thought there would be a stigma and shame attached to being a male survivor, however that is not the case anymore. My abuser always made out he was macho, and certainly phrases such as ‘man up’ and ‘don’t be a girl’ are ones I was used to hearing as I grew up, however normally in contexts very different to the ones I was contending with in my head.
When I did come forward after 30 years a few years back I found the following information really useful, and hope it helps someone else out there, which is why I am posting this again.
Who Can a Man Tell (brochure)
When a Man is Raped (brochure)
Living Well (website)